Much like the workplace term that means doing the bare minimum, “quiet quitting” could also happen , sometimes gradually.
The informal term, which is not a clinical diagnosis, refers to spouses who remain together while reducing their emotional effort, communication or involvement in the relationship, according to experts.
New York City James Sexton described what “quiet quitting” can look like at home and at work.
 “I’m not going to go through the dramatic gesture of ending this thing,” Sexton said. “I’m just going to stop. I’m going to stop paying attention. I’m going to stop participating.”
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Silently pulling away from the relationship may seem to be easier than going through the “trauma” of divorce, Sexton told Fox News Digital, and the person avoids looking like the “bad guy” for ending the relationship.
“Very often, you actually receive more sympathy because you’re perceived as the victim of the breakup as opposed to the perpetrator,” he added.
A lack of effort in a relationship can be a bigger warning sign than frequent conflict, according to Sexton.
“When people are fighting, it kind of means theres still skin in the game,” he said. “The opposite of love is not hate ⦠its indifference.”
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Dr. Mindy DeSeta, a clinical sexologist and licensed mental health counselor in Miami, said some couples seek help after about 30 years of marriage, when the demands of have eased.
“The kids are gone, or they’re hitting that retirement age, so they don’t have the life distractions, and they’re realizing, Wow. I actually quiet quit my relationship when my kids were toddlers,” she told Fox News Digital.
DeSeta identified four relationship principles, including the following:
Couples experiencing quiet quitting may continue to function well as a team, managing the household and other responsibilities while becoming emotionally disconnected.
DeSeta said this disconnection can develop gradually as spouses begin living increasingly separate lives.
“When you stop spending the evenings together ⦠you each are kind of doing your own thing. Your shows are different. You’re going to bed at different times. ⦠You may have different friend groups. You’re working out at different times,” she said.
Both experts shared tips for addressing emotional disconnection between romantic partners.
Reconnection often requires small, active steps that restart the momentum, rather than making grand gestures, Sexton suggested.
The divorce lawyer encouraged revisiting the simple acts and gestures that both partners enjoyed early in the relationship.
His suggestions included sending sweet “good morning” texts, writing a note complimenting a partner or sharing a song that sparked a romantic memory.
“It costs nothing, takes 30 seconds to do it,” he said. “What does it cost to write an email with a list of 10 things I like about you? These are not only things we welcome receiving under any circumstances, but they’re actually reminders.”
Oftentimes, quiet quitting looks like zoning out during moments of quality time, DeSeta said.
If one partner scrolls while watching a movie together, the device can become “the third member of the relationship,” signaling where that partners attention lies, the expert cautioned.
“When you’re on your phone, you’re actually saying, I’m choosing to do this versus spending quality time with you,'” she added.
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